Life After May

Hello all,

My name is Steven, and I live in Moultrie, Ga. The most wonderful and loving woman in the world, my wife Melanie, passed away on May 10, 2025. I have never done anything like this before. Hopefully, my story and journey will not only help me, but maybe help someone else.

I was married for 10 years to Melanie. During those ten years, we had our ups and downs like other couples. I would trade the ten years together for anything in the world, though. For both of us, it was our second marriage. After we were married, she began to have a host of health issues. To make a long story short, in March of 2025, after multiple hospital stays and surgeries, she decided that she was just tired and ready to go see her daddy in Heaven. Now, I won’t lie, it felt like a ton of bricks hit me when she told me that. Fast forward a couple of months, and she passed away at around 850 that night while I was sitting by her side, begging God not to take her.

That moment that she took her last breath and her life ended, mine did too. All the dreams and plans that we had made for a life together ended just as if I had died along with her. It began a journey to this day of trying to figure out who I am as myself and not a husband or caregiver. There have been days when I didn’t get out of bed, cried myself to sleep, and begged God every night to take me away to be with her again. There have been days when I just decided that if it was ok for her to give, then I could too. I’d go 3-4 days without food or water. Even after that, something in me just wouldn’t let me complete that journey.

I’ve tried to cut the story down a little today, but I’m sure over time I’ll tell the story as time goes by. One thing that has kept me going is Revelation 21:4, ” And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes, there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away.” This is one verse that has really helped me in this journey. Its not a cure-all for the pain and hurt that come with grief. My wife was a good Christian woman. She had her flaws, as we all do, but she believed in the Lord until the day she passed. I try my best every day to be the Christian man that she and God would want me to be.

Well, this is just the beginning of my story. I’ll be back to tell more. Hopefully, telling this story of grief and the pain that comes with it will help me, and just maybe help somebody else.